Sweet Wednesdate
Last Saturday, hubby and I had a tearful (it was just me crying actually) conversation about how our current life situation changed the both of us spiritually and emotionally. I was becoming less and less of a wife and more and more of a mom. He was burying himself to his work which turned out he doesn't really love doing. I hated almost every move he does at home like watching videos on Facebook or starting to continue his mission on PS4. I felt like doing most of the parenting tasks and I thought of him just lazing around the house. In fact, I was just counting the things I'm doing and ignoring his simple acts of help.
The conversation, though a little exhausting, helped bridge the gap between the two of us. I can now honestly share that being parents, no matter how many kids you have, can take so much life from the both of you. I believe it has taken away my spontaneity and creativity. I became stiff, ignoring the "or", the gray areas, the in-betweens. I settled only for a "yes" and a "no". I strictly followed everyday's schedule because I wanted to instill "discipline" to my kids. I forgot to enjoy them, to play with them, to be sweaty or dirty, to smear our faces with dirt and paint, to laugh until our stomachs ache. Taking my role as a mother very seriously also took so much of me that I forgot to keep a little bit to myself and to my husband. There he was longing for a soft side from me, a woman who has gentle hands and soothing voice.
I tried to bring back a little sweetness to us slowly. Yesterday I had an idea of inviting him to a "date". We just took a short break from the hustle and bustle of our little household by watching a romantic comedy movie Love, Rosie. It's the perfect movie as we both started out as best friends also though not since we're very little. It's light, it ended on a happy note, it's about friendship, it's about reconciliation, it's about love.
I hope to make this Wednesdate a weekly ritual. Next week I promised him we'll shoot some hoops at the NBA2k16! Haha! Good luck to me!
For married (or unmarried) couples, what do you do to keep the fire burning?
The conversation, though a little exhausting, helped bridge the gap between the two of us. I can now honestly share that being parents, no matter how many kids you have, can take so much life from the both of you. I believe it has taken away my spontaneity and creativity. I became stiff, ignoring the "or", the gray areas, the in-betweens. I settled only for a "yes" and a "no". I strictly followed everyday's schedule because I wanted to instill "discipline" to my kids. I forgot to enjoy them, to play with them, to be sweaty or dirty, to smear our faces with dirt and paint, to laugh until our stomachs ache. Taking my role as a mother very seriously also took so much of me that I forgot to keep a little bit to myself and to my husband. There he was longing for a soft side from me, a woman who has gentle hands and soothing voice.
I tried to bring back a little sweetness to us slowly. Yesterday I had an idea of inviting him to a "date". We just took a short break from the hustle and bustle of our little household by watching a romantic comedy movie Love, Rosie. It's the perfect movie as we both started out as best friends also though not since we're very little. It's light, it ended on a happy note, it's about friendship, it's about reconciliation, it's about love.
I hope to make this Wednesdate a weekly ritual. Next week I promised him we'll shoot some hoops at the NBA2k16! Haha! Good luck to me!
For married (or unmarried) couples, what do you do to keep the fire burning?
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