One-on-one date
You get to know more about a person when you spend an intimate time with them. That's what I realized when I had the time to have a private time with my youngest daughter.
When my eldest was born, she got me and her daddy all by herself most of the time. It wasn't really that hard to give her all the attention because after all she was the only one at that time. But when our second daughter arrived, there were a lot of adjustments. There were two to give bath, two to feed, two to train (one in writing and the other one in potty!), two to put to sleep. All was basically multiplied by 2. When I needed to go out, it was easier for me to bring along our eldest daughter because she's big enough to walk around with me. That would be our kind of dates. Then I realized, especially at times when I can't stand my younger daughter's whines, that I haven't spent much alone time with her unlike with her sister.
Last Saturday, my husband tagged along our eldest to the office. I found it as a time to get personal with our younger girl. When she reached her 2nd birthday this year, I noticed her change of behavior. She gets easily annoyed, very persistent in getting what she wants, and throws tantrums when she feels like she's not being given enough attention. But she's still the little happy bee, only a little noisier this time. I thought having a solo time with her would help me in understanding her better. I have always believed that every child is different. But maybe I just couldn't see much of her personality because I see them both at the same time. But that afternoon bonding with her, though it wasn't really that long, allowed both of us to just focus on each other. I appreciated how she wants to do things in repetition like going up and down a step or marching back and forth with her baby military count "ta-tu! ta-tu!" (hop-two-three-four). I also noticed how she had responded quickly to my calls because there was no one else I was pertaining to but her. And I was also able to respond to her instantly because she's my only focus at that time.
Because of this experience, I look for more close and personal time with each of my girls. I wish to build a closer bond, and not just as a mom-child relationship but a real friendship, with them.
When my eldest was born, she got me and her daddy all by herself most of the time. It wasn't really that hard to give her all the attention because after all she was the only one at that time. But when our second daughter arrived, there were a lot of adjustments. There were two to give bath, two to feed, two to train (one in writing and the other one in potty!), two to put to sleep. All was basically multiplied by 2. When I needed to go out, it was easier for me to bring along our eldest daughter because she's big enough to walk around with me. That would be our kind of dates. Then I realized, especially at times when I can't stand my younger daughter's whines, that I haven't spent much alone time with her unlike with her sister.
Last Saturday, my husband tagged along our eldest to the office. I found it as a time to get personal with our younger girl. When she reached her 2nd birthday this year, I noticed her change of behavior. She gets easily annoyed, very persistent in getting what she wants, and throws tantrums when she feels like she's not being given enough attention. But she's still the little happy bee, only a little noisier this time. I thought having a solo time with her would help me in understanding her better. I have always believed that every child is different. But maybe I just couldn't see much of her personality because I see them both at the same time. But that afternoon bonding with her, though it wasn't really that long, allowed both of us to just focus on each other. I appreciated how she wants to do things in repetition like going up and down a step or marching back and forth with her baby military count "ta-tu! ta-tu!" (hop-two-three-four). I also noticed how she had responded quickly to my calls because there was no one else I was pertaining to but her. And I was also able to respond to her instantly because she's my only focus at that time.
Because of this experience, I look for more close and personal time with each of my girls. I wish to build a closer bond, and not just as a mom-child relationship but a real friendship, with them.
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